It was a lovely evening, I sat in my Veranda with a cup of coffee, initiating to write an article for my organisation. I found myself to be quite clueless since I had no idea what I should write about. Being lost in my thoughts, I looked around to get some inspiration and motivation to narrate something.
My neighbour waved at me.
I waved back at her and said “Hello Aunty! How are you doing?”
She smiled and excitedly enquired, “So what are you writing today?”
“Still in search for some topic, I’m not able to think of anything to write about. And, how is Uncle doing? Haven’t heard from him since a long time”, I responded back
Aunty being in her own thoughts, started talking about Uncle, “Yesterday, he met with the doctor to discuss my hearing problem.”
I felt concerned and asked Aunty, “Do you have a hearing problem?”
Aunty said stunningly, “Pehle meri baat toh sun lo (Listen to me first).
I don’t know what doctor advised him but he was being weird after coming back home. I was in kitchen cooking food when he shouted from the last corner room, “What’s there for dinner today?”. After a while, he came to a room nearer to the kitchen and again yelled, “What’s there for the dinner today? Again, he shouted standing at the kitchen door, “What’s there for the dinner today?” Now, finally when he came closer to me, almost standing next to me and shouted “Darling, What’s there for dinner?” Rama, this is for the 4th time I am saying, “Its Chicken and Rice!”
He looked disappointed when he left the kitchen
I wondered, I had cooked his favourite dinner, still why was he sad. So I went behind him to talk to him. I tapped his shoulder and asked him, why are you sad hearing about your favourite dinner? Do you want to eat anything else? You had been shouting all this while enquiring about dinner.
He sat on a couch and started narrating that this activity of shouting from particular distance was suggested by the doctor to measure your hearing deficiency.
We sat in silence and both of us had a hearty laugh.”
You asked me about Uncle. So, this is your answer!
Aunty went back to her routine saying, she has to accompany Uncle to a Doctor
I waved goodbye to her with a smile.
A pool of thoughts were running through my mind.
Uncle and Aunty’s adorable activity left me with this thought.
How many times do we think that the problem is with someone else, but it ends up lying within us.
Here, Uncle was so concerned about his wife that he forgot that he may also have the problem.
We feel so concerned for our loved ones that we tend to forget our own problems.
So many times, we fail to think that the problem may not be with others but could be within us.
Between Uncle and Aunty, Uncle was worried for Aunty that she has hearing impairment which needs to be treated. He never realised, the problem might be within him.
To be able to think from someone else’s point of view is a very subtle and tricky quality. It can happen only when we step into their shoes’ and try living there (Here the Doctor understood the problem and made Uncle to do the activity to make him believe that he is who is actually having hearing the problem.) When we absorb the thinking of another person, only then we can learn about what that person feels. Thinking from someone else’s perception is a talent.
When we think about the problem within us, we need to understand that the solutions also lies within ourselves. It’s just a matter of realising the same.
Many times, we are not aware of how the solution lies within the problem or, how can we find the answer so easily attached with the question!
But that’s the fact.
The first step in solving a problem is to recognize that it does exist. – Zig Ziglar